我們的人生,離不開生活,我們的生活,又離不開愛,所以,愛是我們一切的源頭。為了實踐愛,我們要謙虛,修正自己,愛自己,我們要感恩身邊的每一件人、事、物,然後,我們更要感謝宇宙與天地的加持。
在愛的世界裡,我們要有十足的自信與信心,我們有極豐富的想像力,且相信「心想事成」,我們更有相當的勇氣,付諸每一個行動。因著愛,我們不會辜負我們的生活,我們的人生的。
這個「愛、生活、人生系列」的播客,是一連串的分享會,從第一集到往後的無數集,我將分享好多人生的故事,生活的故事,和愛的故事。但願這些美好的故事,是你、我行動力的靈感,生活的泉源,與生命的助力,就讓我們大家,一起隨我來吧!
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Sincerity of People and Places 誠心誠意的人與地Having an honest and open heart means possessing a kind and virtuous mind. In our human’s lives, we work and earn income daily to meet our basic needs for food, clothing, and shelter. In doing so, we are much more likely to trust a genuine person because we believe those who are true to themselves are also likely to be truer and more honest with us. Genuine people take time to figure out their own opinions and perspectives about things, and they are not shy about sharing their thoughts with others. Genuine people are comfortable presenting their ideas and exploring their own beliefs, ideals, standards, and expectations because they rely on the answers to these questions to give them directions and purposes in life. Genuine people are probable to recognize their faults and shortcomings, accept them, and take responsibilities for their actions. Genuineness is a word that it describes the level of honesty and truthfulness we have with ourselves. It also means that we are sincere to our own hearts and others. Sincerity is the virtue that allows us to freely express ourselves and treat others without deception. Then, we can act, think, and feel directly without worrying about anything. Sincerely presenting our feelings with kindness and integrity, ultimately, helps us to learn more about ourselves, about the people with whom we interact, and to significantly impact the quality of our lives because life deserves sincerity. When we act with sincerity, we are contented and happy all the time.In terms of going to schools, sincerity is the heart of true teaching and learning. A teacher’s genuine care and honesty create an environment where students feel sincere, valued, understood, and inspired to learn. When teachers approach education with authenticity, they build trust, increase motivation, and make learning meaningful. Teachers who embody the values like honesty, respect, and empathy can actually become powerful role models, showing students not just what to learn, but also how to live with integrity. Students are far more likely to internalize values when they see teachers consistently practice values in the classrooms. Besides, sincere teachers, in effect, construct a safe space where students are unafraid to ask questions, make mistakes, and grow. This authenticity fosters deep learning and character development, shaping not only knowledgeable students but also responsible and ethical individuals of society. In the journey of education, sincerity is not just a tool. It is really the foundation to transform the classrooms into a place of trust, motivation, and lifelong learning. A teacher’s sincerity does not just teach; it, indeed, inspires.Imagine our visiting an old bookshop located in a quiet corner of the small street. The smell of aged paper, the creak of wooden floors, and the personalized recommendations from the owner shape an atmosphere that we can sense intimate and real. This bookshop seems authentic and personal, in contrast to the charmless chain bookstores in a commercial mall, with its standardized layout and mass-produced offerings. It’s the unique essence that makes a place feel sincere, genuine and alive. And we believe that it’s an important part of our life. As a matter of fact, places being rich in sensory environments, such as sights, sounds and smells, do enhance our perception of authenticity and remind of our memorable experiences. Similarly, the authenticity of the classroom is also about its unique essence and characteristics. That is to say, sincere and authentic classrooms maintain and serve teachers and students a sense of belonging, stability and continuity. What’s more, sincerity and authenticity of classrooms could surely express the feeling of being true to teachers and students, and a meaningful connection to the surroundings among them. Martin Heidegger (海德格), a German philosopher, argued that true “dwelling” involves more than just physical habitation; it requires a meaningful connection to our surroundings that fosters a sense of being truly “at home” in the world. At the same time, the concept of topophilia, proposed by the American geographer, Yi-Fu Tuan (段義孚), spoke to the affective bond among people and places, suggesting that environments rich in history, culture and sensory experiences enhance personal wellbeing and identity. He advocated that where we live, work and play can deeply affect our emotional and psychological wellbeing. In other words, by seeking out and creating sincere and authentic places for ourselves, we can enrich our lives with a sense of rootedness and genuine connection. Sincere environments, thus, provide us deep and everlasting ties to our memories, personal experiences, physical and psychological emotions, and social benefits. Take me as an example. I’ve experienced the powerful effects of place authenticity and sincerity firsthand. I often find myself in a small, independent coffee shop, Starbucks Coffeehouse (星巴克咖啡店), near my home, which has the aroma of freshly brewed coffee throughout the shop. It gives me the opportunity to work quietly, and the chance to buy coffee and goods. It’s a place where the waiters welcome me, and where conversations flow easily among strangers. This space also lets me feel sincere and authentic in a way that it’s filled with a unique character and a sense of community that resonate with my own values of connection and creativity. Spending time there has become a ritual to me, and reminded me of who I am beyond the routines of my daily life. Hopefully, our classrooms can be like Starbucks Coffeehouses (星巴克咖啡店), offering and sharing their perfect exclusive senses and sincerity to our teaching and learning, too.Powered by Firstory Hosting
準備好了沒機會就在前面,你相信嗎?有時,我們會想要讓自己準備好了再出發,可是,好像永遠都沒有真正準備好的一天啊?在這個快節奏,充滿變動的時代,我們常常被生活、工作或學業的洪流推著向前,無論我們是要迎來一場重要的考試,轉職挑戰,還是單純地想要在日常生活中,找到主導權,「做好身心的準備」,都是我們維持高效率與幸福感的關鍵。身與心是相互依附的,只有當身體獲得滋養,心靈找到定錨,我們才能以最佳的狀態,應對未來的挑戰。所以,到底我們要怎樣讓自己保持準備好的狀態呢?首先,是思維上的準備,然後,是實力上的準備,最後,則是心態上的準備。在思維的準備上,我們要清楚自己在做什麼,知道自己要追求什麼,我們要隨時檢視自己的目標,看看是否自己正在軌道上,不偏離初心。我們要不斷地嘗試,找到自己真正的熱愛,努力以赴,散發自己真正的價值。世界上所有的現象,都是由我們自己的心念與思考招引過來的。隨著我們內心的狀態,我們的思考,也會有一百八十度的兩極,因此,抱持光明的思考,我們將會有美好的人生,我們要對未來抱持希望,採取積極的行動,以堅強的意念,確信自己可以做到真正喜愛的事。「強力的思維」,能夠滲透我們的潛意識,無論醒著或睡著,我們如能持續去思考,就有可能把我們自己,推向實現願望的方向。其次,在實力的準備上,我們要隨時提升自己,朝著目標,不斷學習與成長。身體是實踐理想的載體,我們要有充足且高品質的睡眠,多攝取原型食物,優質蛋白質,與豐富的蔬果,我們要喝適量的水與運動,並將健康的知識,應用在實際的身體行動中,我們要把「愛自己的身體」,當作每天的功課,持續規律的運動,好好吃飯,好好睡覺。我們如能不間斷地努力練習,身體的實力,一定會慢慢養成起來。鍛鍊我們的身體,最實際的例子是,我們要增加自己的肌耐力,因為,增強肌耐力,會使我們在疲勞開始之前,就可以進行較長久的運動,承受較重的負荷,改善肌肉的效能,對骨骼和關節也很有幫助。肌耐力的好處,還包括促進新陳代謝,幫助燃燒卡路里,維持健康的體重或減輕體重。肌耐力指的是,給肌肉在一段時間內持續且重複行使力量的能力。例如,長跑是一項需要肌耐力的運動。在比賽中,馬拉松選手的身體,須一遍又一遍地執行相同的動作和步伐,這需要他們的肌肉具有高強度的耐力。對一般人來說,做「伏地挺身」,一樣能提高肌耐力,我們也可同時練習「深蹲」,「平板支撐」和「前跨弓箭步」,來增加我們的肌耐力。做「深蹲」時,我們先將腳直立,與肩同寬,腳尖朝前,然後,彎曲雙腿,將臀部放低至膝蓋的高度。做「平板支撐」時,我們以手肘和腳尖作為支撐點,手肘打開,與肩同寬,處於身體正下方,腹部收緊,臀部、上背部和頭部在同一水平線上,支撐時,收緊臀部,身體保持挺直。做「前跨弓箭步」時,我們挺身站立,雙腳打開,與肩同寬,手臂放在腰兩側,當往前跨出一隻腳時,核心出力,將重量放在前腿,保持挺胸,後腿只需維持平衡即可。整體來說,做「伏地挺身」,「深蹲」,「平板支撐」和「前跨弓箭步」,都是需要全身上下不同肌肉的運動的,對於訓練肌肉的協調,及增強全肌肉的強度,都很有幫助。我們透過養成每天的運動,提高自己的肌耐力,逐步完成整體身體健康的準備。最後,在心態上的準備,我們要有自信,有勇氣,願意勇敢跨出每一步、接受未知的挑戰,把握當下與每一個機會。我們要相信自己,美好的前途,是來自於我們的自強、自立與自信的,當我們有勇氣去面對恐懼和不確定性時,我們會突破重圍,看到自己更大的潛能。勇氣能使我們挑戰困難,超越自我,當我們敢於冒險,踏出舒適圈時,我們將會遇到許多新奇的事物,結識各種不同的人,體驗到生活的多彩。勇氣是一種心態,它是對自己的承諾,當我們活出有勇氣的人生時,我們生命中的每一天,都會充滿無限的可能。擁有勇氣,並不是一蹴即成的,它需要時間和努力,我們要試著將長遠的大目標,拆解成每天可執行的「微小步驟」,每完成一個小步驟,我們就要給自己一點肯定與鼓勵。我們要勇於嘗試,無所畏懼,保持飢餓,飢餓於機會、目標,與自我的價值,飢餓於自己的學習與成長,專注地往上爬,挑戰自己的侷限,嘗試新鮮的事物。那麼,我們就會有成就感,更有自信與勇氣。做好身心的準備,並不是我們就隨時處於「完美無瑕」的狀態,而是我們會傾聽自己身體的訊號,理解內心的情緒,並給予自己應有的照顧與包容。當有困難時,我們也不必無懈可擊,只要好好愛護自己,調適自己的身心狀態,知道自己是有準備的就好。機會是屬於「準備好的人」的,對登山者來說,眼前就是一片無法抓握的山壁,唯一能做的,就是往上爬。我們若不能按圖索驥,就須創造出屬於我們自己的指南書,根據自身的準備,按部就班,身體力行。機會僅存在於看得到的人的眼裡,並不是每個人都能看見機會的,我們要時時養精蓄銳、候機待發。遇到事情時,我們要做正面的評估,逆向思考,讓身心能平靜、安定,盡自己最大的力量,努力去做。人生的每個方向,都是一種未來,即便是條條大路通羅馬,其沿路的風景,也都各不相同。機會是不等人的,稍縱即逝,但準備是可以主動出擊的,與其等待機會,我們倒不如早做準備,給自己多一點時間安排,這樣,我們的人生,才會安穩妥當,信心滿滿。Powered by Firstory Hosting
自信這件事自信指的是「相信自己可以把事情做得符合預期」的心理感受,它同時也包含「自己能否把事情做得好」,及「自己能否在人群中,感到安全」等。有自信的人,知道自己「要」什麼、自己「有」什麼,並對「自己的存在」,感到安全與自在。自信是一種技能,它不是天生的,而是可以透過不斷的努力、練習,來加以提升的。事實上,自信是一種「不論在什麼樣的困境下,都相信自己可以完成任務」的能力。努力,努力,再努力,還是要努力,提升自信最簡單的辦法,就是努力再努力,練習再練習,別無他法,沒有什麼神秘的魔法,能夠馬上提升自信,也沒有其他更快速,或更有效的方法,可以立刻產生自信,其實,有自信最直接的行為,就是練習。練習可以從設定小而可達成的目標開始,完成後,給自己鼓勵與肯定。除非我們能對自己要做的事情,相當的熟悉,非常的精準,否則我們不會對自己產生自信。因此,培養自信最重要的方法,就是「勇敢出發,不要被失敗和挫折所打敗,堅持下去!」我們要向自己精神喊話,自我肯定。我們要時時鼓勵自己、肯定自己:「我是自己生命的主人,我的生命,掌握在我自己的手中」,如果我們連自己都不願意相信自己,別人又怎麼會相信我們呢?最重要的是,我們在達成每一個小目標時,一定要記得獎勵自己、肯定自己,讓自己透過小目標的完成,建立自信,累積成就感。再者,「喜歡自己」也是產生自信的核心要素,我們要能夠清楚地感受到自己的想法及感覺,並知道自己的各種面向。我們要知道自己喜歡什麼,也要知道自己討厭的事情;我們要知道自己有害怕的事物,也要知道自己有想要勇敢的時候;我們知道自己有喜歡跟別人在一起的需求,但也容許自己有想要獨處的空間;我們知道自己有耳根軟的時候,但也知道自己有不想理會別人的時候。我們自在地讓自己的感受跟想法,在腦中自然發生,沒有對錯,然後,我們再藉由自己身體力行的表現,來充實自己的自信。我們要持續地掌握自己能做的事,讓「正確地預期後果」,及「耐著性子做完對自己的要求」在心中萌芽,並表現出來。真正的自信,並非只是外表挺拔、語調堅定就夠了,而是我們要在和自己獨處的時候,仍然相信自己的選擇與價值。心理學家指出,自信是對自己能力與判斷的信任,這份信任,不是憑空而來,而是透過日常,一點一滴累積出來的。自信的人,並不總是完美,而是願意在不完美中,仍能喜歡自己,尊重自己,相信自己是值得被愛的。再來,我們除了喜歡自己外,還要接納自己。我們不是不夠努力,我們現在的自己,是「已經盡了最大努力的自己了」。「接受原本的自己」,就是認同「到目前為止,我們在經歷各種事情後,已經是最好的自己了」。我們接受了自己的現狀,也意味著,以後我們仍然有進步的空間的。自信是靠我們自己贏來的,我們每天都要是很努力的,而且,我們要讓「接納自己」,成為生活中的一種習慣。我們很知道自己的局限,但也很願意持續加油,努力以赴。我們要心存感激,不跟別人比較,因為我們每個人,都有獨特的優點和才華,無須和別人較量的,我們只願接受真實的自己,挑戰自己,期待一天比一天更好。還有,別忘了,我們也要在努力行動的過程中,好好照顧自己,給自己休息、放鬆的時間,這才能讓我們的情緒更愉快,更能一直保持著活力。最後,「接納自己」,我們才會有勇氣,也才會反過來更喜歡自己,肯定自己,活出自信,並在我們自己能力所及的範圍內,去嘗試一些自己好奇的新事物。當我們充滿信心地相信自己時,我們就會有勇氣,開啟心靈的門扉,發現更多的可能性。李白說:「天生我材必有用。」我們每個人,都有自己的特點和長處,我們透過努力,持續練習和感恩,保持正向積極、不放棄,我們便有自信,有勇氣,能不斷地嘗試與成長,逐步展現內在潛能,最終達到自我突破。Powered by Firstory Hosting
我最想做的事:自我價值我們發現,在生活或工作中,有許多人,對自己的自我價值,常常感到懷疑:「我真的有價值嗎?」「如果有,那我要怎麼讓別人看見呢?」有些人會不斷地向外尋找,不斷地證明,甚至在無意識中,透過各種方法和手段,想要獲得被看見的感覺,這是一個很真實、也很普遍的疑惑。因為,我們一方面渴望被看見,另一方面,我們卻又害怕自己沒有足夠的價值,值得被肯定。這種矛盾的心情,常常讓人陷入深深地自我懷疑。有時,在工作、在家庭,或在人際關係裡,我們總是會想:「我做的事情,是不是非要我來做不可?如果有一天,我不在了,別人是不是不會做?」我們真的有這麼重要嗎?「自我價值」是別人給我們的,還是我們自己說了算?在我們的成長過程裡,我們常常被外在的評價框住,例如,如果成績好,我們就有價值,表現若亮眼,我們就會被看見。我們的努力,如果沒有人讚美,我們便開始懷疑自己,當沒有掌聲時,我們也會陷入自我否定的情緒中。但是,「自我價值」,並不能只依賴別人的眼光啊!我們想要被看見,不光只是來自外在的掌聲,而是要源自我們自己願意承認,並擁抱的那份力量,即使沒有外在的評分,我們仍然有存在的價值:「我盡力了嗎?如果我盡力了,儘管結果不如預期,我們也可以允許,現在就是這樣,相信此時此刻的我,已是最完美的時候了」。價值不是空談。很多時候,我們會停留在畫大餅、做白日夢的階段,看起來很熱血,但卻缺乏現實感的狀態,其實,真正困難的,往往不是我們怎麼想,而是我們的「行動力」。「自我價值」,是可以在我們一次次的小行動中,被累積出來的。譬如,每天堅持養成某種好習慣,持之以恆,我們就會在這些看似微小,卻是很有意識、刻意的行動中,創造價值。價值,不在於大小,而在於真實的存在,當我們一直看見,並實踐這些小價值時,我們生命的厚度與意義,就會慢慢被編織出來。也就是說,我們的價值,早已存在於日常生活當中了,它只是需要被我們看見而已。試想看看,我們的專業技能:我們在學習與工作中,所累積的能力;我們的生命經驗:我們走過的路、承受過的傷痛與收穫,那是別人無法複製的資源;以及,我們個人的特質與故事:我們的性格、態度與人生歷練,這些都是我們獨一無二的自我價值。只要我們內心承認「我們本來就值得」,我們就會看見自己的自我肯定,與自我價值。再者,價值也從來不是一個人關起門來定義就算,而是要在與別人的交流中,被感受到與被放大。在日常生活裡,服務別人,與貢獻別人,真的不需要驚天動地,我們只要做到細微但真實的行動即可。回顧自己的生活經驗,我們會發現,好像我們總是很認真地在面對每一件事,用心且全面地在理解別人,處處磨練自己、累積專業能力,認清自己的角色,專心傾聽別人的需要等等···,我們每一個小小的行動,都有可能是別人生命中的轉折點啊!因此,真正的自我價值,是在與別人共同前進的過程中,被創造出來的。因為,自我價值不是只停留在「我覺得自己有意義」就好,而是要透過「我願意去貢獻」被體現出來的。在人際關係裡,當我們選擇真誠地給予與支持時,我們不僅幫助了別人,也深化了自己的存在感,這就是「自我價值」在互動中不斷地被創造、被確認的過程。我們可以從以下三個簡單的方法,來問自己是否有「自我價值」:1. 每日記錄「自我價值」的時刻:問自己,今天我在哪裡創造了價值?2. 練習自我肯定:將注意力放在「我做了什麼」,而不是「別人怎麼評價我」。3. 持續小行動:不必等待重大成就,每一次微小卻真誠的付出,都是價值的累積。當我們選擇用自我反省的態度來生活時,我們的「自我價值」,會逐漸被創造出來。在我們的生活中,有43%的行動,是出自於習慣,習慣是適合自動進行的,簡單又孜孜不倦的動作,不需要花太多時間去思考,做就對了。目的和獎勵,對於要開始持續做某件事是很重要的,它們幫助了我們在一開始的時候,就養成有益的習慣。如果我們的目的很明確,而且做了有好處,我們肯定會不假思索,馬上去做的,這就是習慣,並且,我們的情境,也會觸發行動。因此,隨時隨地,我們都要營造情境,清楚自己的目的,並給予自己適當的獎勵,那麼,我們就會養成做重複動作的好習慣,日積月累,成效一定驚人,其價值也一定可以展現出來的。我們這一生,從表面上看來,也許是一事無成,沒有什麼大的成就,也沒什麼大富大貴,平淡無奇,但是,對自己的生命,我們每一個人的心中,都有一把尺,滿不滿意,自己心裡都很明白,那是一種感受與感覺,自己的最愛,其實就是我們最想做的事,也是自我最大的價值。當我們只是很專注地投入在那個當下我們最想選擇要做的事時,這樣的體驗,已經足夠是我們人生最大的價值了。在看見自己的過程中,我們難免跌跌撞撞,曾做過很多荒唐的事情,也曾面對生命中的失落。平時,我們總是循規蹈矩的,常常無意識的揹負著許多不必要的框架、信念與自我譴責,也很有意識地接納那些父母、社會加諸給我們的期許和責任,在社會的標準下,企圖尋求認同。於是,在如此的人生過程中,如果我們還能堅持自己最想要做的事,那麼,我們對自己的存在感與認同感,就是任何外在的成就與肯定,都無法比擬的,那也是我們之所以成為「我們自己」最重要的原因。而當我們充分接納與熱愛這樣的自己時,我們也就沒有理由,為了任何外在的名與利,去放棄自己了。我們為自己的生命,做出選擇,並負起責任,那就是我們一生中最大的價值了。生命本然就該讓心中的熱情,引領著我們,帶著我們,實現自己,即使那是別人最不起眼的,也都是值得我們看重與光耀的。Powered by Firstory Hosting
Getting Back into Study Mode 收心操Summer holidays are every student’s favorite time of the year. Late mornings, vacations, family outings, endless screen time, and a break from homework, etc. make a summer season enjoyable for everyone. But once the schools reopen, many students struggle to switch back into “study mode.” For example, waking up early feels difficult, concentration becomes weaker, and studying suddenly feels stressful again. This transition is completely normal. After two months of relaxed routines, our brains and bodies really need time to adjust back to structured learning. The good news is that with the right habits and positive mindset, teachers and students can smoothly return to academic learning without feeling stress. In fact, the new term is a fresh opportunity for us to return back to schools to get knowledge, grow, and improve on past academic performances. We should be happy and welcome the chance.One of the biggest challenges after the summer vacation is adjusting to school timings again. During holidays, teachers and students often sleep late and wake up late. Therefore, first of all, it is better that before the schools reopen, teachers and students should begin resetting their sleep schedule gradually. Sleeping earlier and waking up earlier helps our bodies adapt naturally. Having a proper morning routine also improves mental alertness throughout the day. Thus, simple activities like morning walks, stretching, reading, or reviewing notes for 15–20 minutes would always help teachers and students mentally prepare for academic training.Secondly, a bright and organized environment, either at home or at schools, creates a positive mindset for studying. Before reopening, teachers can go to school to check the classrooms and equipment in advance, and students may arrange their textbooks, notebooks, stationery, bags, and study space properly at home. Cleaning and organizing study space and materials gives us a sense of readiness to prepare for the school works. Moreover, teachers have to make plans for the lessons and students could begin with small and achievable goals, such as reading extracurricular books for 30 minutes in order to train their concentration. A timetable helps teachers and students bring discipline back into their daily routines. With consistency and time, discipline would become more automatic without effort.Thirdly, after summer holidays, maintaining healthy habits becomes essential. Physical activity improves memory, concentration, and mood. Even simple activities like cycling, walking, or playing indoor/outdoor games can refresh the mind. Many students might wait until tests or assignments begin before taking studies seriously. However, the best way to avoid academic pressure is by staying consistent from the beginning of the school year. Actually, going to the library daily, listening carefully in class, and completing homework on time helps students stay confident throughout the year. So, we do have the mindset to take action of taking activities and go to school every day. Furthermore, transitioning back to academic life is much easier when students are doing together on campus. They can reach out to classmates, friends, or study groups to catch up and share the studies. When they surround themselves with motivated peers, it helps them back into study mode easily through shared experiences.At last, getting back into study mode after summer vacation, indeed, is not about suddenly becoming perfect or studying for long hours. It is about slowly rebuilding discipline, focus, and confidence through simple daily healthy habits. As a matter of fact, teachers and students truly need time to adjust after a break, and that is completely OK. With proper planning, positive thinking, healthy routines, and consistent effort, teachers and students can successfully transition into the new academic year without stress. A new academic year is not just about scores and exams, it is an opportunity to learn, grow, explore, and become better day after day. The good and right start is very important for teachers and students. It surely can make the entire academic year more productive, balanced, and successful.Powered by Firstory Hosting