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2021-09-12(Sunday)
颱風天最適合躲在家讀書了
這集約兩個禮拜前錄好
一直放到現在才有力氣完成
覺得自己這集說的不是很好
也有一個重音一直唸錯
***Presence重音在前不在後 > <
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Work with Fear
“The process of learning to work with fear isn’t just about doing a few exercises that solve everything, it’s about changing your attitude toward fear, understanding that it has something to offer, then committing to doing the work of identifying and trying to shift out of your pattern of distraction every time it appears.”

“Each of the four distractions from fear - panicking, freezing , running away, and burying - is a different version of a single action, or rather, a single inaction: refusing to accept our fear.” 

“So the first step in transforming our fear from a negative to a positive is doing just that.”

Accept your fear
***presence[ˋprɛzns] 重音在前面(音檔內容唸成重音在後)

“To close the gap with our fear, we must acknowledge its *presence.”

“Breathing steadily while we acknowledge our fear helped us calm our mental and physical responses in its *presence.”

“Walk toward your fear.”

“Become familiar with it.”

“In this way we bring ourselves into full *presence with fear.”

Find Fear Patterns

“Along with accepting our fear, we must get personal with it.”
 
“This means recognizing the situations in which it regularly appears.”

A powerful question to ask your fear is “When do I feel you?”

“I constantly saw that when I was worried about my exams, when I was worried about my parents, or about my performance at school or getting in trouble, the fear always led me the to the same concern: how I was perceived by others. ” 

“What would they think of me?”

“My root fear influences my decision-making.”
(我根源的恐懼影響了我做的決定。)

The awareness now prompts me when I reach a decisive moment to take a closer look and ask myself, “Is this decision influenced by how others will perceive me?”

“In this way, I can use my awareness of my fear as a tool to help me make decisions that are truly in line with my value and purpose.”


“Sometimes we can trace our fears through the actions we take, and sometimes it’s the actions we’re reluctant to take.”

p.54

“What if I jump and there’s nothing on the other side?”

“I’ve spent so much effort and energy building this career. What if I’m just throwing it all away?”

“I asked again and finally we got to the root: She was afraid of failure and of being seen as less than an intelligent, capable person by others and by herself.”

Last Paragraph
“Patterns for distracting ourselves from fear are established when we’re young.”

“They are deeply ingrained, so it takes some time and effort to uncover them.”

“Recognizing our fear patterns helps us trace fear to the root.”

“From there we can decipher whether there’s truly any cause for urgency, or whether our fear can actually lead us to recognize opportunities to live more in alignment with our values, passion, and purpose.”

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